Relationships and the Sacral Chakra
By Dana Mrkich
Our orange sacral chakra holds key information as to why we attract specific types of relationships and partners. This chakra relates to our sense of self-value and self-worth, our sacred sexuality, our ability to give and receive pleasure and how we feel about our feminine nature and qualities (regardless of gender). It also provides clues as to any ‘holes’ we feel that lead to addictions or dependency issues.
The sacral chakra holds the energy of our inner child, who offers a plethora of information about the hidden motives behind our relationship choices. Before our inner woman feels safe enough to come out, we first need to make sure our inner little girl feels secure enough to let that happen! That’s the way energy works.
To connect with your inner child, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and bring your attention to the area just below your navel. Ask your inner child to show herself. What age do you get? How does she feel and look? Ask her: What do you most need? Ask yourself: How can I give that to her? This is one of the most special and powerful relationships you will have in your life! Enjoy, Love Dana xo
Here are some email readings on the sacral chakra that Dana has given to shesaid readers.
Dear Dana,
I am in my 30's and have never had a boyfriend. Every man that I have been interested in was either spoken for, or simply not interested in me whatsoever. I am by no means perfect and I know I don't have much to offer a man, but I can't even get to first base. I have currently met a man and feel that he may be interested in me but he hasn't verbally said so. Do I have any hope with this guy, or am I destined to be alone? And how do I explain to a guy that I have never had a boyfriend? It all just seems hopeless. Kind regards,
Angela
Dear Angela,
I am getting that part of the energy in your sacral chakra is absolutely frozen in fear. What is currently happening is you’re on a not-so-merry-go-round where this energy is affecting your perspective on yourself, life and especially relationships. Whenever you take a courageous mental step forward and think “right I am ready to attract a relationship”, your emotional/energetic self replies “I don’t think so” because this fear is there. Your mental body then responds with an “Oh you’re right, how do I explain to a guy that I’ve never had a boyfriend” or any number of other fear-based replies, and you retreat back.
First let’s find out what your fear is exactly, why it’s there, and what you can do about it to let it go! Something has made you feel not safe about ‘showing yourself’ so your subconscious has decided “When someone comes along who makes me feel safe, then I will show myself, but until then I’ll hide in here, thanks very much.” The irony, however, is that your fear is actually putting up roadblocks and obstacles all over the place so your ‘right person’ can’t even get to you.
Don’t worry though, the very fact you have put up so many roadblocks is your proof that he is indeed there, he is just outside all these barricades. The question is not are you “destined to be alone”; the question is why you are afraid to let a man in,
I sense you are afraid that he will see the real you, and you are afraid that the real you is a totally unlovable creature and that when he finds out he will run away, so you’d “better not let him in the first place.”
Where did you get this idea that you must be totally unlovable? I am getting that your parents weren’t fully available for you to ‘plug into’ them, for you to receive the nurturing, support, love, affection and protection that you needed. So, you grew up holding a (metaphorical) electrical cord and plug, and just looking for something or someone to plug into so that you could receive these things, and finding nothing but one solid wall after another, with no power points to plug into. Inside you to this day is a little girl, holding out a plug, and you need to help her plug into something ASAP because she is absolutely starving of love and nourishment. She is asking “would it be ok for me to plug into you?” so that you can give her the love, nourishment and nurturing she is so craving.
This is going to activate something very powerful within you. I am seeing your sacral chakra going from ‘stagnant frozen’ energy, to whirring around like a washing machine energy. By saying “yes” to the little girl you will have to listen to her to find out what she needs.
She might want to swing on swings, have a bubble bath, eat a certain food, or buy a pink fluffy jumper. She might want you to love yourself and her just a little bit more in the way you speak to yourself or treat yourself. Just really feel your connection with her, she is the younger aspects of you which are energetically still inside you.
This process is going to help you start to feel safe enough energetically to let someone in, and be drawn naturally to whatever other processes you need to do in order to strengthen that sense of safety. Follow any urges - from a desire to go to a dance class to feeling like having a couple of sessions with a particular therapist.
You are very loveable, and there is a little inner you inside you that is waiting to be shown that, so she can feel what it feels like to be loved. Then the right guy will be there to do the same. As your energy is going to change so much due to this inner shift, so too will the way men look at you and respond to you. If this guy is available and right for you, he will definitely approach you. If not, there is someone else who will. With blessings, Dana
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